In a past entry, my friend VV posted a comment wonder where my convictions stem from and how I can be so steadfast in them. Also, VV wondered about how to be less judgemental.
Both answers to both questions/comments are the same answer. Because I've seen what it can do. I falter in many areas in my life, however, there are a few points that I can stick to and I am not sure I deserve kudos for them all. I don't smoke, merely because I can't. I would flop over and die considering I can barely breathe in a smokey room anyway. I don't drink much, because well I don't see a point to that. I can round up that lack of inhibitions, goofy, laugh at everything feeling all on my own, without the calories, without the carbohydrates, and without wondering what I did the previous night. I don't have sex all over the place because I don't want kids, don't want an STD, and well up until a couple of years ago, I'd never had the option. It was only two years ago that I received my first kiss so I am not as experienced as most people my age. Plus, I'm picky about who touches me in even a casual sense so in an intimate setting, you'd better be worth it. I don't use drugs because I've seen what that they do to a person, a family, a life, and the future.
I care for the environment because I live in it and people are going to have to live in for the next however many years we are on the planet. Nor do I see a reason innocent animals should have to suffer even more for our lack of care of our home. Yes, Earth is our home and we pollute it, we dirty and sully it, and don't care because, well, maybe we think no one is coming over anytime soon.
And I do not judge because I have been judged. I have been followed around stores when I had my punk/skate rat phase of dressing because the clerks thought I was a theif, I've been deemed a lesbian, a bitch, an airhead, a bad person for my beliefs, a failure, people have chosen not to talk to me because of what is on the outside of me, men pass me over because of my appearance. etc. And I am not about to do the same to others. Sometimes, those in the scariest packages are the nicest people and wear the dark costumes so they can protect themselves, thus those who are willing to get to know them won't judge them for their hair, their clothes, their piercings. I know people who can appear stupid at first glance, but when you get to know them and their talents, you retract that thought, so why have it in the first place unless they have proven it to you time and again. Also, I am willing to forgive because I make mistakes. And this is not to say that I don't make snap judgements. I do, I just had to learn how to not let those judgements get in the way of knowing the real person.
I am Girl of Approval and if someone wants to look me over, pass me by, think I'm something I'm not, think they can't spend time with me because I am something or am not something, then they miss out on ME and I know that if I do the same thing to someone else, I'll miss out on HIM/HER. And I don't want to do that.
2 comments:
You're writing keeps getting better and better, I hang on every word. We were lucky to learn not to judge even when others judge us, maybe that was because we had each other to learn from since 1st grade. The weirdest, most different people are usually the most worth knowing.
That was nice.
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